Book Review: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart

If there is one topic that is a hard one to tackle, it’s sex. Today’s society is heavily influenced by sex. The culture seeks to normalize things such as porn, casual sex, and same-sex attraction. It pressures women of all ages and marital statutes to conform. So for the Christian woman, embracing God’s design for sex and purity can be challenging and even confusing.

We wrestle with whether God’s design for sex is truly good or what purity even means. We wrestle with our questions about our own sexuality and the purpose of it. On the other hand, as sex is a hard topic to discuss in Christian circles, sex often comes off as something dirty and bad. Which, then, leads us even further into confusion.

In their book, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart, Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal share honestly about their own struggles and victories related to sex and purity. They take on the hard, often unspoken topics that everyone wants to talk about: sex, purity, masturbation, porn… And they talk about it honestly. Kristen and Bethany help women understand why God’s design for sexuality is good and leads to true hope.

I was thankful when I got a copy of the book to read and review. Mostly because this is a topic that I think needs to be talked about, in a good and biblical way. The authors do a good job of covering this topic and the questions that often rise up.

As for the writing, I found it a bit hard to read the book at times. As I’m not familiar with Kristen Clark or Bethany Beal from Girl Defined, for me it was confusing as the text jumped from one to another talking. Because of the two authors, I also found the text often didn’t go that deep. It covered the basics, yes, in a good way. But it was just that, and not more. So while it can answer some questions, I felt at times it didn’t quite do that.

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I got a free copy of the book from Baker Books in exchange for a review. I wasn’t required to write a positive review.

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  1. I agree that it’s a topic that needs to be talked about more. I’m sorry to hear that the book didn’t go that deep. Thanks for reviewing it. There are not too many books on the subject from a strong biblical viewpoint.

    1. We definitely could use more books with solid doctrine and a strong biblical viewpoint on this subject, Donna. I’m glad there’s already this book that covers these difficult topics but at least I would have wanted for it to go deeper at parts.