Maintain Love & GraceFull Tuesday Link-Up

Maintain Love GraceFull Tuesday Link-Up

Lately, I have been thinking about love. Not the romantic type of love. Rather, I have been thinking about the sacrificial kind of love. The kind of love that acts beyond feelings. The kind of love that serves the least. Love that has to be maintained, focused on, made a priority. Love that is not easy.

And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” Be hospitable to one another without grumbling. As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” (1 Peter 4:8-10)

I can see it in us, in myself — we are all just human. It is easy to love those we like: our family and our friends. But as selfish humans, we tend to write off loving those people who are difficult to love. When we have to choose to love, instead of just “feeling it”? It is easier to say no thank you. In those moments, we have to choose to love these people. Yet, that is not enough.

Oswald Chambers wrote, “Neither natural love nor Divine love will remain unless it is cultivated. Love is spontaneous, but it has to be maintained by discipline.”

We not only choose to love. We have to choose to maintain love by discipline as well. But what does that really mean?

In his book on prayer, Timothy Keller wrote that just like learning any language, we learn prayer by first listening to someone else — namely, what God says in His Word. When our input comes from the Word of God, the outflow will line up with God’s will. Ever since reading that, I have been thinking whether we can apply this to love as well.

When the input comes from the Word of God and from how He loves us? Maybe we will be able to love when it’s hard. When we read of His love for us over and over again? Maybe we will understand better what love means in practice for us, too. And when we read about how much He has sacrificed for us because He loves us? Maybe then we will truly be willing to sacrifice our comfort and love when it’s hard.

I know it is not easy to maintain love when loving is hard. It takes discipline; it needs to be cultivated. But we have a God who sacrificed His everything to love us. So maybe, we can take the hard step and love as well.

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  1. Hi there, I have tried to put your button on my post but it just comes up with the name Graceful Tuesday instead.

    1. Thank you for telling me this, Sandra! I tried to see if I can figure out the code and change it to make the button work. When you copy the link to the “text” or “html” version, make sure to check the links there. For me, with the links it said href=”‘ while it should be only href=” so you have to delete that ‘ mark. I’ll keep looking into it and see if I can fix it!

  2. A wonderful quote from Oswald Chambers. Yes, love must be cultivated and tended to. In my life I find the more I remember God’s love and mercy towards me, the better able I become to extend it to others. It is a daily remembrance. Blessings!

    1. Yes! The better we see and remember His love, the better we are able to love others. Thank you for stopping by today! God bless you!

  3. What a beautiful reminder! We won’t be able to love well if we aren’t pouring over the love of God. Love this!

  4. Ronja – such a great post and it is so true – we have to choose to love and cultivate it. One of my favorite books is called “Keep Your Love On” by Danny Silk and it talks about love being a choice we make every single day in the good days and the bad days. But it also talks about communication and choosing to stay in relationship. thanks for the linkup today

    1. Thank you so much for your sweet words, Debbie! That book sounds like a good one. I’ll have to check it out! Thank you for stopping by here today as well. God bless you, friend!

  5. I love the idea that learning to love is like learning another language! Also, that learning to love takes discipline. I’d never thought of it this way before.

    1. I have definitely been given a new perspective into love and learning to love with this, too! Thank you for stopping by here, Anita. God bless you!

  6. Love is a choice, and let’s face it some people are hard to love, and I actually think some people don’t want love, they’d prefer the sinful life or the quick fix. Loving or trying to love these people can put a drain on you spiritually, so I pray we all learn to discern. Sometimes, it’s enough to sows seeds.

    1. Yes, all of this is so true! It can be so hard to commit to love when leading a sinful life is easier. And on the other hand, some people can be really hard to love for sure. But I think that’s all what learning to love means as well — knowing ourselves and just how much we can do before we get exhausted. Thank you for stopping by here and taking the time to comment! God bless!

  7. Oh, yes, choosing to love is the first step but you are right that it takes work and discipline to cultivate it. Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #MomentsofHope