There Is Purpose In Your Brokenness

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It has taken me a long time to learn to be comfortable with vulnerability and transparency, to show the brokenness that takes residence in my heart. I am still learning, and the Lord, in His graciousness, keeps breaking my heart. More time than I would like Him to, and I am learning to be transparent and honest about that, too. It still takes everything that I have, to let the world see the bruised corners and crumbling walls of my heart.

What I have found, what no one tells you — is that the most exhausting thing to do is to live with a broken heart. Because a heart that has been broken and bruised, weighs heavier than anything else in this world. It carries all the pieces of the broken dreams and frozen hopes that we had to let go. It carries the streams of tears, all the sleepless nights and questions. It carries sorrow — so much of the heavy sorrow that can expand uncontrollably within the timespan of a minute.

What I have noticed in walking through seasons of brokenness, though, is that I am never the only one. No matter what brokenness my heart has held, there are always these beautiful people who have joined me, telling me, “I know. Me too.”

“What joy for those whose strength comes from the Lord,
    who have set their minds on a pilgrimage to Jerusalem.
When they walk through the Valley of Weeping,
    it will become a place of refreshing springs.
    The autumn rains will clothe it with blessings.
They will continue to grow stronger,
    and each of them will appear before God in Jerusalem.” (Psalm 84:5-7 NLT)

I have to confess, I know so little about brokenness even now. Yes, in the days filled with self-pity I tell myself that I have had to walk through many a hard season, more so than I would hope for anyone to experience. Yet I know that is not true — because I have found immense beauty in brokenness.

You see, what no one tells you — is that broken hearts are the most beautiful ones. Broken hearts can become anything: brave, bold, soft, kind, gentle, loving, wise. Broken hearts can be all that — because they know pain, because they have walked on shattered pieces of a life but still held on to the remnants of hope. Broken hearts know the beating of the broken heart of our Savior, and they have known the gentle, scarred hands that held them together through every season.

In the days we are walking through the darkest of the valleys, it is difficult to see a purpose in our pain and brokenness. But our hearts know the One who is leading us forward, the One who holds our hearts — and He is good. So we know, so we can be certain that something better is coming, and He is making everything beautiful in His time.

“Who knows why God allows heartbreak, but the answer must be important enough because God allows His heart to break too.” (Ann Voskamp, The Broken Way)

David Mathis writes with wisdom: “If we are in Christ, God makes our pain a channel of his grace to bring about a deeper trusting and delighting in him. Without answering all our questions about pain in detail, we learn that God is greater, and his purposes more mysterious and wiser, than we can fathom; and that pain, in his good providence and plan, is his strange grace to draw us to him — not simply a question requiring an answer on our terms.”

So friend, if you are walking through a season of brokenness, of hurt and sorrow? If you are lost, doubts swirling around your mind and having a hard time finding a way? If you are ready to give up, to give in?

Yeah, me too.

But no matter what your heart holds today, no matter where you are in this moment — there is a purpose for your brokenness. There is a beauty becoming in your heart, a deeper understanding and trust of what is true. There is always hope, even though the storm is raging and it is difficult to see any glimpses of light right now. There is always hope.

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  • Gayl

    This is one of the most inspiring posts I have read today! I thought of the phrase - beautiful brokenness - and while it doesn't seem beautiful at the time it is there in our brokenness that God comes and He makes something beautiful. Thank you for sharing your heart! It's nice to "meet" you today as I am visiting from Barbie's linkup #Glimpses. Blessings to you!

    • Ronja

      Amen! Thank you so much for these kind, encouraging words, Gayl! Thank you for visiting here and taking the time to comment. God bless you!

  • Ariëlla

    Thank you so much for your encouraging words, Ronja.

    • Ronja

      Praise God! Thank you for visiting here today! God bless you!

  • Kailey Hogan

    This is so good. Thank you for sharing <3

    • Ronja

      Thank you for these sweet words, Kailey! God bless you!

  • Creating Kilter

    I love this post very much. I love the line from the song "I'll Never forsake you" by Steve Pettit. It says, "The deeper your sorrow, the louder you sing." You said you don't know much about brokenness as of yet but you have described it so beautifully. Broken hearts are heavy to wear. Praise the Lord He will bear that burden for us! Thanks for this post!

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much! That song reminds me of a quote from Spurgeon that says that deep devotions rises from deep places and deep sorrow. Thank you for visiting and taking the time to comment! God bless you!

  • Being Woven

    OH! I passed by this post yesterday on a link-up and visited someone else. Again, you are my neighbor at Dawn's and I am so grateful to be reading this. I have not looked at brokenness through this lens and so needed to...today, yesterday. or tomorrow. I need to know how God works through whatever we go through, including broken hearts. I weep in sadness but now know that that has strength through the Lord. Hallelujah! It is a process, yes. I am in it and want to keep stepping with Jesus.

    • Ronja

      Praise God! I'm glad there were words here for you, Linda. I'm so thankful that the Lord sees us where we are, and He creates beauty in our hearts while bringing us to a better place eventually. May the Lord bless you this week!

  • somegeekgirl

    Amen, there is purpose in our pain! Many times, we don't see it until we're on the other side of it but He promises to work all things out for His glory and our good! Blessings! Esther | Chosen & Cherished

    • Ronja

      So true, Esther! It can be hard to walk in brokenness when we don't see the purpose; but we know our Lord and that His heart towards us is always good. Thank you for visiting here! God bless you!

  • mareedee2016

    Love your words. It is difficult to be vulnerable but oh so worth it. Maree

    • Ronja

      It sure is difficult to be vulnerable but I'm thankful that the Lord sees us and gives us grace! Thank you for visiting here today, Maree! God bless you!

  • Lyli @lylidunbar.com

    Ronja, my beautifully broken sister in Christ! Thank you for sharing this with #FaithOnFire today. You touched me deeply. Blessings

    • Ronja

      Thank you, Lyli! God bless you!

  • Debbie Kitterman

    Ronja - such beautiful true words written with much grace and hope for whats to come. I am so delighted to be your neighbor over at Lyli's today at #FaithOnFire. PS.. if you are looking for another place to link to on Thursday's I would love if you would consider joining my new linkup #TuneInThursday - it opens Thursday 3am PST and runs through Sunday night. you can find it at debbiekitterman.com/blog (Please feel free to delete the link if you think it inappropriate).

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much for these kind words, Debbie! And thank you for letting me know about the linkup! I'd definitely love to join you. :) God bless you!

  • tammykennington

    This is a beautiful, authentic post Ronja. You blessed me today with your honesty! I pray the Lord will strengthen you as you meet Him in the brokenness of your situation and that you will rely on the Comforter in the painful moments. Blessings!

  • Gretchen Fleming

    Ronja, as you well know, the heros of our faith were broken people so we are in good company. You speak of hope and how vital it is in the journey of brokenness. If it were not for hope, I don't know how we would get through. It sustains. It encourages. It strengthens us from one moment to the next. Hope is powerful in our fight to persevere through what is breaking our hearts. Great post and thank you for your transparency. We hold it lovingly and carefully.

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much for this encouragement, Gretchen! God bless you!

  • Lynne

    Thank you for being so honest here Ronja. Bless you. I totally agree with you that we can all be made beautiful through our brokenness and God will use us even more because of our brokenness.