why your forgiveness matters

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But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:7,9)

Friend, I come to you today with these words heavy on my heart, wanting to share these words that I have been thinking about and carrying with me for some time now. I wanted to tell you that I am just like others at times, holding on to unforgiveness or anger or dislike or wrong attitudes — just because I think it too difficult a job to change my way of thinking. But the truth is — forgiveness holds such an important place in our lives.

Forgiveness is like that cord that holds us together; that binds together the broken, loose pieces and offers something to hold on to, to take hold of. Forgiveness allows growth in us messy and wounded people, bringing us that one breath closer to the One who loves us in the midst of our brokenness. Most of all, forgiveness gives meaning to the mess that we make.

“To the Lord our God belong mercy and forgiveness, though we have rebelled against Him.” (Daniel 9:9)

Mercy and forgiveness belong to the Lord. I know you know this one, dear one. You have felt His glorious grace lavishing you with His forgiveness time and time again. His new mercies have met you every morning, over and over again. We might rebel and fight against and stubbornly refuse His grace, and yet we will never be beyond the reach of His forgiveness — and that is why your forgiveness matters.

Our forgiveness matters because when we forgive others no matter what wrong was done against us, we are in that moment the most like God.

When we forgive others, we better learn that unconditional love of God that loved us while we were yet sinners. This same love reaches us even now. When we forgive others, we learn to extend this glorious grace and so tell the other what we know deep in our bones — that I am no better than you are. That we are just the same.

“If each man or woman could understand that every other human life is as full of sorrows, or joys, or base temptations, of heartaches and of remorse as his own … how much kinder, how much gentler he would be.” (William Allen White)

Bitterness that comes with unforgiveness, is the kind that roots itself deep into our cores. Bitterness has a way of steeping into our thoughts and slowly take hold of our hearts, eventually controlling our lives on a daily basis. And yet, I have learned this one thing — I am certain I have never been worthy of being forgiven the wrongs I have done to others myself. I would say the same for all of us.

Dear friend — your forgiveness matters. Forgiveness pours that much needed grace into our hearts, and allows us to grow in our mistakes and shortcomings. Forgiveness lifts up with love that heart in desperate need of radical love that breaks through walls and chains. Forgiveness shines that wondrous love into the dark of the night.

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  • alanthomasrooney

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  • Andrea

    Reblogged this on Inspirational and Encouraging Blogs.

  • Andrea

    Reblogged this on Inspirational and Encouraging Blogs.

  • Tiffany Garza

    Yes! Forgiveness is such a gift to yourself and others that you cannot grasp until you give it. Many blessings to you :) Tiffany

    • Ronja

      Yes, so true, Tiffany! Isn't that just more reason for us to learn to forgive others -- as we better understand just how much God has forgiven us. :) Thank you for your visit, Tiffany! God bless you!

  • Tiffany Garza

    Yes! Forgiveness is such a gift to yourself and others that you cannot grasp until you give it. Many blessings to you :) Tiffany

    • Ronja

      Yes, so true, Tiffany! Isn't that just more reason for us to learn to forgive others -- as we better understand just how much God has forgiven us. :) Thank you for your visit, Tiffany! God bless you!

  • Kristy

    Oh, friend, your words brought tears to my eyes... My heart needed to hear them. Bitterness has been something rooted in me and the need to forgive has been heavy on my heart. It's hard to let go but the Lord's grace and love for me allows me to do so. Thank you for your words that pierce the heart with Truth.

    • Ronja

      Oh yes, Kristy. These things are often the ones that are the hardest to let go. But that is all the more reason to be thankful for the Lord's grace that meets us where we are and gently prompts us forward. His love remains just the same, no matter where we are or where we have been -- and it's His love that changes our hearts for the better. That sounds pretty amazing, doesn't it? :) Thank you for sharing this with me, Kristy. You are in my prayers! Blessings to you!

  • Kristy

    Oh, friend, your words brought tears to my eyes... My heart needed to hear them. Bitterness has been something rooted in me and the need to forgive has been heavy on my heart. It's hard to let go but the Lord's grace and love for me allows me to do so. Thank you for your words that pierce the heart with Truth.

    • Ronja

      Oh yes, Kristy. These things are often the ones that are the hardest to let go. But that is all the more reason to be thankful for the Lord's grace that meets us where we are and gently prompts us forward. His love remains just the same, no matter where we are or where we have been -- and it's His love that changes our hearts for the better. That sounds pretty amazing, doesn't it? :) Thank you for sharing this with me, Kristy. You are in my prayers! Blessings to you!

  • Laura

    In that moment we are most like God...Oh WOW, I just love that! I have forgiven people who hurt me so much that I thought I was beyond repair (of course, I wasn't!). This forgiveness was so freeing and helped me to move past the hurt. Great message!

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much, Laura! Isn't it amazing how God enables us to do things -- like forgive those who have hurt us -- beyond what we think we are able to do. His grace is truly amazing! Thank you for your visit here, Laura! God bless you!

  • Laura

    In that moment we are most like God...Oh WOW, I just love that! I have forgiven people who hurt me so much that I thought I was beyond repair (of course, I wasn't!). This forgiveness was so freeing and helped me to move past the hurt. Great message!

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much, Laura! Isn't it amazing how God enables us to do things -- like forgive those who have hurt us -- beyond what we think we are able to do. His grace is truly amazing! Thank you for your visit here, Laura! God bless you!

  • i know this...but this day I needed to have it resounded to me....

    • Ronja

      You are not alone! I have needed the reminder of this message so often myself. Thank you for your visit! Blessings to you!

  • i know this...but this day I needed to have it resounded to me....

    • Ronja

      You are not alone! I have needed the reminder of this message so often myself. Thank you for your visit! Blessings to you!

  • Sharon

    Bitterness is a weed, that once given root, can destroy us. Beautiful words about the importance of forgiveness - both in receiving it, and giving it. What came to my mind was that church in SC, and how those dear brothers and sisters in Christ are shining an example of grace and forgiveness in the light of unspeakable tragedy. Only the Light of the World could bring them to that place. GOD BLESS.

    • Ronja

      You are so right, Sharon; that church in SC truly is a great example of grace and forgiveness, and how God can enable us to forgive beyond what we think we would be able to forgive. His grace can change our hearts so completely, and that church is a beautiful example of that. Thank you so much for your visit and sharing with me here, Sharon! Blessings to you!

  • Sharon

    Bitterness is a weed, that once given root, can destroy us. Beautiful words about the importance of forgiveness - both in receiving it, and giving it. What came to my mind was that church in SC, and how those dear brothers and sisters in Christ are shining an example of grace and forgiveness in the light of unspeakable tragedy. Only the Light of the World could bring them to that place. GOD BLESS.

    • Ronja

      You are so right, Sharon; that church in SC truly is a great example of grace and forgiveness, and how God can enable us to forgive beyond what we think we would be able to forgive. His grace can change our hearts so completely, and that church is a beautiful example of that. Thank you so much for your visit and sharing with me here, Sharon! Blessings to you!

  • Katie M. Reid

    Glad we are neighbors today at #TellHisStory. Forgiveness is so important and I often neglect doing its business. Thank you for the reminder to follow God's example and live more free and like Him.

    • Ronja

      Yes, Katie -- I myself so often wonder how is it that I don't forgive others when it's so clear just how much forgiveness I have needed, both from the Lord and from others. Because it is just like you said. When we follow God's way, we live more free and find so much of ourselves in Him. Thank you for stopping by here, Katie! Blessings to you!

  • Katie M. Reid

    Glad we are neighbors today at #TellHisStory. Forgiveness is so important and I often neglect doing its business. Thank you for the reminder to follow God's example and live more free and like Him.

    • Ronja

      Yes, Katie -- I myself so often wonder how is it that I don't forgive others when it's so clear just how much forgiveness I have needed, both from the Lord and from others. Because it is just like you said. When we follow God's way, we live more free and find so much of ourselves in Him. Thank you for stopping by here, Katie! Blessings to you!

  • Tayrina {ATinyMixOf} (@TinyMixOf)

    Thanks for sharing and encouraging today. I'm visiting you from Coffee for Your Heart. You're invited to join Words of Comfort Link Up too, every Wednesday. Blessings Tayrina from www.atinymixof.com

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much for these kind words, Tayrina! I will surely be linking up with you, so thank you for that! God bless you!

  • Tayrina {ATinyMixOf} (@TinyMixOf)

    Thanks for sharing and encouraging today. I'm visiting you from Coffee for Your Heart. You're invited to join Words of Comfort Link Up too, every Wednesday. Blessings Tayrina from www.atinymixof.com

    • Ronja

      Thank you so much for these kind words, Tayrina! I will surely be linking up with you, so thank you for that! God bless you!

  • Cheryl Long

    I once read something along the lines of: Forgiveness is like releasing your debtor from prison only to discover that you were the one held captive. This is a beautiful post. I'm thankful to be visiting today from Coffee and Conversation.

    • Ronja

      I love that line, Cheryl! There is so much truth in there because unforgiveness only holds us back from the best that God wants for us and has for us. Thank you so much for sharing with me, Cheryl. Blessings to you!

  • Cheryl Long

    I once read something along the lines of: Forgiveness is like releasing your debtor from prison only to discover that you were the one held captive. This is a beautiful post. I'm thankful to be visiting today from Coffee and Conversation.

    • Ronja

      I love that line, Cheryl! There is so much truth in there because unforgiveness only holds us back from the best that God wants for us and has for us. Thank you so much for sharing with me, Cheryl. Blessings to you!

  • Rebecca

    I've had to learn to forgive and re learn. Forgiveness isn't a one time thing - it is a daily act. Every time those thoughts come to mind of the wrong someone has done to you , you need to forgive again. Great and needed post. Thanks for sharing.

    • Ronja

      Amen! You are so right, Rebecca -- forgiveness needs to be done on a daily basis. It is a choice for us to make every day, every time those thoughts come up. Thank you for these words of wisdom, Rebecca! God bless you!

  • Rebecca

    I've had to learn to forgive and re learn. Forgiveness isn't a one time thing - it is a daily act. Every time those thoughts come to mind of the wrong someone has done to you , you need to forgive again. Great and needed post. Thanks for sharing.

    • Ronja

      Amen! You are so right, Rebecca -- forgiveness needs to be done on a daily basis. It is a choice for us to make every day, every time those thoughts come up. Thank you for these words of wisdom, Rebecca! God bless you!

  • hopeful50

    Forgiveness is a constant work in progress! Visiting from Jennifer's, I'm in parking slot #59!

  • hopeful50

    Forgiveness is a constant work in progress! Visiting from Jennifer's, I'm in parking slot #59!

  • tmpresser

    Thank you for sharing this great post with us at Good Morning Mondays. Forgiveness is so important and a necessary part of our Christian walk. Thanks for the reminder, blessings.

  • tmpresser

    Thank you for sharing this great post with us at Good Morning Mondays. Forgiveness is so important and a necessary part of our Christian walk. Thanks for the reminder, blessings.