First I was thinking about writing a post on self care. Mainly because I need to learn again how to take better care of myself. But I realized I have written a post on self care here before. So instead here I am, sharing with you four things that help me in a hard season. These address both the body and the soul — since these are often both affected.
4 Things That Help Me In A Hard Season
1. Going to church or to a small group.
Often it becomes so hard for us to go to church when we are in a hard season. Maybe because life feels so unfair at the moment. Maybe we struggle with doubt or confusion, questioning God in all this. Or sometimes the empty comforts of others just make us feel worse, and therefore we don’t want to go to church.
I understand that. But I think it’s absolutely vital for us to keep going to church. Firstly, because it’s a commandment given to us in the Bible (Hebrews 10). And when we justify disobeying one commandment, we start justifying disobeying others as well. The thing is, it’s hard to be open about the things that hurt us. Mainly because it hurts even more. But that is life. And that is when we need other believers to walk with us on this difficult journey.
2. Pouring out your heart.
Psalm 62 says, “Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.” And this is what I believe in. Pour out your heart before the Lord. Do it in prayer. Write in your journal. Talk to Him throughout your day — about everything. The good and the bad. The beautiful and the ugly stuff. He wants to hear it all. And even more so, it does good to our heart to pour it all out.
3. Finding a quiet place.
I find that I tend to get easily overwhelmed in hard seasons. It feels like hard things just keep adding. I get stretched thin, and it’s hard to hold on. In those moments, I go and find a quiet place. A place without distractions; a place without other voices. There, I pour out my heart to God — and then I wait to hear His. I sometimes put on some Christian music that is easy to listen to. (Will Reagan is a forever favorite). But mostly I just linger in the quietness and wait to hear from God.
There are days, though, when I hear nothing. Sometimes I just hear my own heart bleeding raw. Or the questions and doubts that rang loudly in my mind. Sometimes there are words of anger or bitterness that drown out any other voice. That’s okay, too. It’s easier to address those in a quiet place.
4. Maintaining a balanced diet.
I am the “everything in moderation” type of a person. So I believe it in hard seasons, too. Yet I think we easily fall into one extreme or another. We start making our bodies slave to a healthy diet, grasping control at least in one area of life. Or we eat comfort food, craving that comfort from somewhere. And here’s the thing. All those healthier options are important for our body. But those comfort meals are important for our souls, so to say.
So I think a balanced diet is good all around. That means eating healthy meals full of fruit and vegetables. And it means eating those comfort meals as well.
What things have you found helpful in a hard season? I would like to hear!
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