Contentment & GraceFull Tuesday Link-Up


It is February, again, and we are almost halfway through. Which means that Valentine’s Day is here, once again. And here I am looking at this day, as a single, once more. And to be honest? I has taken a lot to be able to confess this; but I am disappointed. This isn’t at all how I imagined life would be like all these years.

Lately I have been thinking about contentment quite a bit. Mainly because in this season of life, I am having a lot of trouble with actually being content. Like, at all.

But here’s the thing I have realized: discontent isn’t something for only single people. We can all be discontent. Married or not. Kids or not. Family or not. Having friends or not. Having a great job or the worst job. Really. I think we can all find things in our lives that we are not happy about.

Last week I was talking with a daycare worker about one of my clients. This lady, she is one of the most skilled and wise people I have ever met. The more I get to know her, the more I respect her and look up to her.

We were talking about a kid being overweight and it getting to the point of us having to maybe interfere soon. Mainly because the parents are not doing anything. The daycare worker, the wise woman that she is, said something that I have been thinking about all week. She said, “I am overweight but that is my choice as an adult. This is a kid. They don’t have a choice.”

But that’s the thing behind contentment, isn’t it? It is our choice.

Yes, we might be tied up to people or places or situations. We might have a spouse or kids — and the day to day life is just incredibly hard. Maybe we have older parents to take care of or a special needs child. Or maybe we hate our jobs but desperately need the money to keep on living.

I know that. I really do. Still I believe that this is our choice — because no matter what we face, we can always choose God. We can choose to look beyond our circumstances and place all our hope on Jesus and His power. We can’t change everything but we can change something. Take up a new hobby (I am doing that!). Maybe we can approach grace in a whole new way, learning to lavishly pour it out. And the biggest change comes when we give our hearts to the Lord. Not just our hearts, but also our times. Because I think a whole lot changes when we start putting time aside for God and God only every day.

Friend, how are you? How is your heart? Have you noticed discontent and bitterness creeping up on the corners of your heart lately? If yes, I am right there with you. And I can’t recommend enough to just pour it all out to the Lord. Speak to Him. Vent, gripe, pour it all out. And then leave it all to Him. Trust that He loves you and only wants the best for you. Because that is the truth.

“Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.” (Psalm 62:8‬)

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  1. I remember when I was a single woman & then as a widow, I realized that the only true contentment is in Him, not in things, not even in any human relationships (even having children) but only in my Lord & Savior. There is no other REAL contentment other than in Him, only the illusion of contentment in other things because they are momentary…where contentment in Him is eternal.

  2. I think that’s what makes us an adult. We finally come to realize that we are responsible for our own happiness. We each have everything we need to be happy inside of us at all times.

  3. You and Jennifer in her comment said it well. The only real contentment is in Him! We can be discontent with our husbands, our children, our singleness and everything else in life or we can choose Jesus and resting in Him! Thanks for the reminder, Ronja.

  4. I don’t know how old you are. I know others who are disappointed in their singleness, also. Something I observed a long time ago is that the girls who were getting married were girls who were already content and happy before they met their special someone. I hope you can overcome your disappointment.

  5. Would love to connect – I was single til 35 – thought it would never happen. And then of course, there’s the same issues after 31 years! Ha! God is good to keep on keeping our eyes on Him! my email is:

  6. Contentment can be hard with the tension between the pull of the world of what is good for us and the pull of God to have our complete identity in Him. I know I continually work to have peace, and learning to be content with the restlessness within that will always be there until called home. I’ve been divorced for over 21 years now, and still single. And quite content, although do run across many married people who do still comment on my status. 🙂 My hope is that our status never matters, whether married or single (only maybe on our income tax form)! Have a beautiful day, full of contentment that you’re loved exactly for who you are at this moment.

  7. I find that I bounce back and forth between being content and not. Really, I’ve started to think about it as being content with the journey as it is now, and someday (as it changes) I plan to be content with that too. I stopped looking at it as being “perfectly” happy, and instead look at it as thankful and appreciative (which is something I can choose, whereas being perfectly happy isn’t really something I can control). I enjoyed your post. Thanks.