When Being Kind Isn’t Easy

When Being Kind Isn't Easy

We are arriving to that time of the year when the days get shorter, sunlight showing up only sparingly. As it is, the days are getting longer too — this math that is not my favorite. It is difficult to see the light around this time of the year. I notice it clearly these days. Some days I manage to catch the sunrise on my way to work. Most days it is still dark when I leave to work. Overtime keeps me at work long into the afternoon or evening. So I haven’t been able to leave work early enough to see the sun for a couple weeks now.

So it is that these weeks, I have come in contact with quite a few difficult people. Not that they mean to be difficult. I am sure that is not what is their main purpose. But when dealing with them means that they are yelling at me, it is hard to label them as anything else than difficult. I think that this has something to do with the fact that I have been reading Bible verses on kindness lately. And after these phone calls? I feel like I am failing miserably.

It can take a long time, to arrive at the end of the rope. It looks different every time, too. Maybe you have done all you could for that person, for this situation — but it hasn’t helped. There is nothing left for you to do now, and it hurts. Maybe you tried all you could to apologize, to make amends, to make things right — but this situation is not changing. All the guilt, shame, sorrow keeps you awake at nights now. Or maybe you have exhausted yourself beyond what you can take. All you have now, is the strength to carry on for another two minutes.

“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.” (Philippians 4:4-5)

How is it possible to be kind in these situations? With mean and angry people, in difficult and challenging situations, when you are exhausted and weary? When circumstances stretch you thin is it even possible to be gentle and kind? Let alone to be known to all by our gentleness. This, again, falls into the category of mathematics that I have a hard time figuring out.

So this must be the key: to rejoice in the Lord always. Still the same question remains. How do we do this with difficult people? How do we rejoice in circumstances that are just plain hard and awful? When exhaustion is a cloak we constantly wear?

This is what I have come to realize. When I am stretched thin and my strength is running out? God will be my Strength and He will give me strength. When I have done all I could with this difficult person? I can pray for them and give them to the One who can actually change their hearts. When I struggle? I can give my heart to the One who can change my heart.

“He who follows righteousness and mercy finds life, righteousness, and honor.” (Proverbs 21:21)

So it is, that we can always rejoice in the Lord — because we know the hope we have in Him. When the kindness we can naturally muster up runs out — we only need to lift up the situation, the people, our hearts to the One whose kindness towards us will never run out.

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  1. “So it is, that we can always rejoice in the Lord — because we know the hope we have in Him.” And this is what we need to remember in every circumstance, esp. the hard ones. 🙂 Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #MomentsofHope!

  2. Love this! While it is not always possible in our own strength, God can give us just what we need, when we need it, if we will only look to Him!
    “But when the kindness of God our Savior and his love for mankind appeared, He saved us—not by works of righteousness that we had done, but according to his mercy through the washing of regeneration and renewal by the Holy Spirit.” Titus 3:4-5
    Stopping by from #MomentsofHope link-up! Love your blog and happy to meet you! 🙂

    1. Vickie, how lovely that you found your way here! It is so amazing that God meets us in our need and gives us just what we need. So thankful for that! Thank you for visiting here and taking the time to comment. God bless you!

  3. YES! ‘When I am stretched thin and my strength is running out? God will be my Strength and He will give me strength’ – This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. Thank you!

  4. Oh it’s hard to be kind sometimes, isn’t it? I often don’t have the strength, but by His might and with His strength I can rejoice in the Lord and all of that will run off on others. Blessings!

    1. Oh yes, Barbie, it can be so hard to be kind on some days! I’m so thankful God gives us what we need for the day. Blessings to you!

  5. Amen! God in us, our source of strength when we are weak, our reason to rejoice when there is no other, the One that helps us to be kind when we couldn’t do it otherwise. 1 John 2:27 What a joy to know that His Spirit stays in relationship with us even when other relationships around us are damaged or broken.

  6. This is a good reminder for me right now. I have a difficult person in my life. I think your post also applies in other areas. My heart is heavy and this reminder comforted me in that situation as well. Thank you. One of your neighbors from Coffee for your Heart linkup.