Why We Choose Grace – For Ourselves And For Others

Why We Choose Grace

When Life Is Hard

It is not a new thing for us Christians, that we have to face the storms of life. We Christians tend to go from one storm to another one because that is where our faith is tested. When a great storm rises, we surrender and fall on our knees quicker. And we are reminded of God’s faithfulness when He delivers us from the storm or through the storm.

Some seasons of life, the storm is in trying to make it through the week. Life has a tendency of working like a whirlwind, growing greater as the gloom sets over us. It is in those unexpected circumstances, unexpected battles — those ones that catch us off guard and throw us off our balance. Those are the ones that rattle our weary bones, the weight of this fight a heavy on our shoulders. It is in the words spoken to us, those that cut deep or reopen wounds — especially when they are untrue and unjustified.

I am only learning this, telling people when I’m not doing good. There is still much more work to be done in this area. At the same time, I seem to have this gift of looking like my life is all together and everything is just fine. Honestly, these days I don’t even try to look like this. It comes naturally, somehow.

“This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.” (Hebrews 5:15-16)

Your Honesty Matters

Your honesty gives others the freedom to be honest as well. Honest about their brokenness. Honest about their struggles. Maybe even honest about their victories and milestones. Just the same, your example of extending grace to yourself gives others the freedom to extend grace to themselves.

We all mess up. Some days I wonder how we make it through, us messy people who really have no idea how anything works here. We fall short, for a hundred times and then a thousand times. We stumble, we hurt, we hurt others — and this seems to be the circle of life, really.

“The godly may trip seven times, but they will get up again.” (Proverbs 24:16a NLT)

Choosing grace for yourself is not wrong, friend. Choosing grace for others, is what we should do. Because love believes the best of the other. Love endures through the hard times and hopes in them. Love covers a multitude of sins. And that, my friend, is how our God loves us, as well. Choosing grace for others can require a miracle of God on some days. In some circumstances, choosing grace goes against everything we know. And so it can be with choosing grace for ourselves. We know our sins, how great they are. We know the pain and the heavy weight of it all.

You Don’t Need To Do It All

Sometimes — quite often, really, I forget this one important thing. I do not need to do it all. Honestly, I forget this so often. I think I need to do it all, that I need to be able to do it all. I need to be strong enough to handle this all by myself. The storms, the difficulties, the unexpected blows and wounds, the sadness and sorrow. But that is not true. God brings this to our lives so that we would turn to Him. And in turning to Him, we witness His faithfulness to carry us through every season and circumstance. God is our help and our shield. He is our strength. He knows our hearts, and He will be there for every hour of every day.

“The Lord directs the steps of the godly.
    He delights in every detail of their lives.
Though they stumble, they will never fall,
    for the Lord holds them by the hand.”
(Psalm 37:23-24)


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  1. Ronja,
    Oh I’m so glad God is there to carry us through when we don’t have the strength! And grace is definitely a difficult thing to grasp — why God even offers it to us is a mystery but we have to extend it to others (something I’m not so great at!) in following his example. I can attest to your thoughts that challenges arise in our lives to turn us TO God, not have us run from him, if we accept the unique invitation he is offering us! Love to you, friend! xoxo

    1. Valerie, you are so right. Grace is such a difficult thing for us to truly understand. How wonderful it is that God keeps extending grace to us, every day! Thank you for visiting here, my friend. Be blessed!

  2. We all need His Grace and each others! I love how you speak about being honest and real and that we don’t have it all together-although sometimes it appears that way! I, too, feel this is so important! None of us have it all together, and when we are honest it helps others in their own storms and in facing their own issues with not only honesty but grace. Thank you for the reminder that I don’t need to do it all-I forget that sometimes. Loved this post!

    1. Yes! We all need that honesty in our lives — being honest with ourselves and with others. And then letting grace work in those gaps and sorrows. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, Elizabeth! God bless you!

    1. Thank you, Julie! Grace seems to be that kind of a theme that needs to be repeated on most weeks, at least for myself. 🙂 God bless you!

  3. Ronja, what a great article! Very encouraging and I love your second point because I’m always having to remind myself of that one, too. Thank you for sharing!

  4. I’m still learning, Ronja… learning how to accept God’s never-ending grace and extend just a little to myself. Sometimes, I’m so hard on myself. It’s like you said, sometimes I feel I should be able to handle it all, but then I remember our God, whose mercies are new every morning and who longs to draw me close to him. It makes it easier then to extend grace to myself and others. I enjoyed the honesty and wisdom in your post. Blessings to you!

    1. Thank you, friend! We often are so hard on ourselves and it is difficult to accept God’s grace because of that reason… But I think it’s worth the time, learning to see ourselves as God does. Thank you for visiting here and taking the time to comment! God bless you!